Why Do Single People In Vancouver Seem To Have A Throwaway Mentality?

Have you noticed that there are a growing number of singles in Vancouver? Many of them claim to be on a never-ending search for that special someone, but are they really their own worst enemy? Somewhere along the line, someone probably told them to list what they want, male and female dating partners. I agree with the concept of trying to manifest who you want in your life, but are we going too far? Has their list become so long and unattainable that no one can possibly meet their expectations? Or are singles now being kept in the dark because of social media and online dating sites, believing that there is an endless supply of people to approach.
Online daters seem to end up dating the entire online world, even if they didn’t intend to do so in the first place. There’s always another profile, another picture, the kid in the candy store mentality, you know what you mean, but somehow they never seem to find that elusive person they believe is waiting for them. Unfortunately, the longer they are online adult dating, the less likely they are to find a possible match and build a great relationship. The truth is that they could have met a lot of people if they had taken a little more time and patience to build a great loving relationship with them.
They go online multiple times in a day, looking for another photo, another profile, another victim on dating sites. Serial online daters believe that they can have any woman and man they want at the click of a mouse. In case you haven’t noticed, men and women use old photos and lie about their age, activity level and availability, to name just a few. First, you will see them on multiple dating sites for a long time.
No relationship will ever be fun and conflict-free, and men, women, and people in general have a hard time communicating at the best of times. Look at your closest relationships with family and friends, the more crap you’ve been through and overcome, the closer you’ll be. I attended a workshop which said that conflict is welcome into your relationship because it gives you the opportunity to overcome it, which in turn deepens your emotional connection. If your partner isn’t willing to do the work, they don’t really value the relationship.
Sure, there are things we can’t overcome – abuse, addiction, conflict over life goals – but many people walk away the first time their potential partner has a disagreement, and no one in the classifieds seems willing to put in any effort to make a relationship work. Remember, you should do this because you want to, not because you have to! Don’t you appreciate it when someone else focuses on your positives instead of your negatives?